What to do when a doctor doesn't listen!

Your doctor is one of the last people you want to not listen to you, yet unfortunately for many their doctor is the main person who does not listen. This is not only extremely frustrating but can also lead to feeling alone in your fight against symptoms. When a doctor does not listen, it is important to take steps to rectify the issue. Depending on the situation there will be different ways to go about handling it. Here are my top tips in two categories

If this is a new doctor or doctor that has always not listened-

1. Find a new one! If a doctor repeatedly does not listen or take your symptoms seriously, there is no point in staying with them. Even if they are the “top” doctor, if they don’t listen to you, they aren’t going to help solve your issue.

If this is a doctor that you have had a good rapport with previously-

1. State your concern. First start by having a conversation like this “I don’t feel like you are hearing me on _______.” Or even something like “This symptom is very concerning to me, but I feel like we aren’t paying attention to it. Could we discuss this more?”

2. Make a detailed list of all your symptoms and concerns and give it to the doctor. Having a physical list not only helps ensure that all info is being communicated, but also shows the doctor that this is important to you.

3. Ask your primary care provider to help. Sometimes it takes having a doctor who knows you having a conversation with the specialist to get them on board. Your primary care provider should be your best advocate so hopefully this is not occurring with them, if it is I recommend having the conversation in #1 or finding a new PCP.

4. Find a new doctor! I am going to say this again in case you didn’t see it the first time. If a doctor refuses to listen to you, they are not going to be able to help you, regardless of how “good” of a doctor they are.

Having a doctor not listen to you can be extremely frustrating, that’s why I highly recommend having an open conversation with them about your frustration or finding a new one. You deserve to be heard and have your fears and concerns addressed. If you need help finding a doctor check out my blog post on my top tips for finding a good doctor.

Disclaimer-

All information provided on this blog is for educational purposes only. Always consult your healthcare provider and/or your insurance provider for your specific situation. This blog does not offer medical advice.